Sometimes You Just Have to Make Your Own Dreams Come True

 

A good friend of mine is always on the lookout for Prince Charming. She's always hunting for that one guy who's going to swoop in, get rid of her problems, and make her dreams come true. This has been going on for years and, needless to say, she always comes up disappointed. There are a few reasons as to why this is, but they detract from the point. 

If you rely on someone else to make your dreams come true, you're going to be frustrated and disappointed - just like my friend. Why? Because you're basically hoping for a miracle. Is there someone out there who can make your dreams come true? Maybe, but more than likely not. 

Having such a fantasy is also unrealistic and will put high expectations on anyone you do end up dating. It's okay to have expectations, but they need to be realistic. After all, you wouldn't want to have expectations of you that aren't reasonable either, so don't put them on anyone else.

Relying on someone else to realize your dreams also takes away from your own strengths and abilities. You're basically telling the world that you're incapable of doing things without someone else's help. You doom yourself to a life of sadness and not realizing your own potential by thinking like this. 

When I was married, I had a handful of years where I had high hopes that the two of us would realize my dreams. My dreams. Let that sink in. The truth of the matter is, sometimes you just have to make your own dreams come true. I came to this realization, so that's what I'm doing. Working on my own dreams not only gives me strength and focus, but it allows me to do exactly what I need to do in order to achieve my goals. 

I don't need anyone else to help me realize my dreams, and neither does my friend. She just doesn't realize it yet.